It’s not uncommon for people to describe a smoking relapse as something that happened “out of the blue”. While lighting the first cigarette that breaks your quit rarely happens by chance, it can feel that way.
Recognize Junkie Thinking
The seeds of your slip were likely planted days or even weeks before the actual event occurred. The shift in thinking may have started by seeing something as simple as a stranger relaxing with a cigarette. You may have thought, “He gets to smoke, but I can’t because I quit.” Feelings of being deprived of something good – of sacrifice is enough to set the stage for a slip. That feeling, if left unchecked can fester and grow over time until you’re obsessing about smoking. It’s all in our perception! If you tell yourself that smoking has value and you’re making a big sacrifice by quitting, you’ll probably find yourself smoking again eventually.
Romancing the Cigarette
Another common form of junkie thinking that can lead to relapse has to do with romanticizing your old smoking habit. Once you put some distance between yourself and that last cigarette you smoked, the edges of your quit can get a little fuzzy. It’s easy to forget why you thought it was so important to quit smoking. Maybe that chronic cough is gone, or you think that quitting hasn’t been so hard. You tell yourself that you could go back to smoking for a little while and then quit again – no big deal.
Like a bad relationship you had to leave behind, it’s easy to remember the “good times” and not the bad. We’ve all done it. We think about how nice it was to relax on the deck with a smoke after a big dinner. What we conveniently forget is all of the other smokes throughout the day that weren’t so enjoyable – the ones that left us headachy, tired and out of breath.
While you may have the nicotine out of your system, the habit of smoking holds on a lot longer. If junkie thinking takes hold, you may be amazed at the creative justifications you can come up with to allow yourself to smoke just one cigarette. They’re all lies of course, but most of us have lost at least one quit attempt to faulty thinking.
Pay close attention to the background noise in your mind and correct unhealthy thoughts of smoking as they come along. Don’t allow them to grow into an urge to smoke that you can’t control. Nip them in the bud and protect your quit.
Recovering from a Smoking Slip
If you’ve fallen off the smoke free wagon, junkie thinking has gotten its way and will continue to influence you if you let it. In order to preserve your quit program and avoid a long-term smoking relapse, you must stop smoking now and get your mind working for you instead of against you once again. You’ll be busily trying to rationalize why you should put off quitting, but don’t listen to the lies. The only good time to quit smoking is NOW. Get right back up on that horse and start riding again.
Use the list of suggestions below to get yourself back on track:
- Write out a list of reasons for quitting. If you’ve done this before, get your list out and read it over and add to it. Carry it with you and refer to it when you’re feeling unsteady. Those reasons are no less true today than they were when you first quit smoking. Bring them back into focus – they’ll help you get your priorities in order.
- Educate yourself. Read everything you can about what smoking does to your health. Face the dangers of smoking straight on. It’s a great way to build resolve.
- Get support. In person and online, seek out the help of others. The Smoking Cessation Forum here at About.com is a very active community of people who are going through what you are. Sign in as a guest to read or register (free) to post messages of your own.
- Apply yourself just one simple day at a time. Don’t worry about the fact that you slipped – it happens and is in the past. Don’t worry about never smoking again either. Just think about today, and doing the best you can with it. You can stay smoke free just for today, can’t you? That’s all you need to do. Your quit program will be much easier to maintain if you follow this rule – don’t overwhelm yourself by projecting forward or back. Your point of power is in the here and now. You can’t change what happened yesterday, and the best way to influence your future is by doing a good job with today. Keep things simple and in the present tense.
- Accept yourself. We’re all human and make mistakes. You slipped and smoked, but it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Learn from what went wrong and make corrections to avoid the same problem in the future.
Be kind to yourself and be patient too. Relax and take your quit as it comes. You’ll have good days and bad days, but over time, the good will outweigh the bad. Pamper yourself a little and don’t expect too much too quickly. Slow and steady wins the race every time, and this race is one that will reward you with improved health, confidence and quality of life overall.
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